Everyone knows about “The Mommy Wars.” You know, formula vs. breastfeeding, disposables vs. cloth diapers, to vaccinate or not to vaccinate, everyone has their opinions on how their baby should be raised and it’s only normal that everyone is different. I have my opinions and if you don’t agree with them, great. But that’s not what this post is about. It’s about the Stepford Moms who act like their life and kids are perfect, even when they’re not. It makes me livid when parents act like everything is hunky dory with their kids allllll of the time, always has been, always will be. You know….when you deliver your baby early, naturally, pushed for only five minutes on the precise day you wanted your child’s birthday to be, and then the baby sleeps through the night at 2 days, breastfeeding was successful from the start, never cries unless he/she is hungry, never gets sick, or when he/she does, never fusses, rolls over both ways by 1 week, stands unassisted at 6 months (ha!), never goes through the “terrible twos,” potty trains by 12 months…. blah blah blah blah BLAH!
I don’t know why people find it necessary to lie about their kids, when after awhile you KNOW it’s a lie.
This is more common in online mommy forums and women talking about their kids who were babies 50 years ago….but it still happens amongst friends, in smaller doses today.
You know how moms are, we naturally want to compare our kids to make sure they’re “on track” with their peers. I’m guilty of it, too. But kids are different. One kid who walks at 9 months may not have the vocabulary at 2 years that the kid who waited until 18 months to walk has. Or the child who has a speech disorder may be better at complex thinking than a child who talked at 10 months. (This is all being hypothetical, of course, not my scientific research.)
All I’m saying is, be REAL when you talk about your kids. Sure, your kid slept through the night early on, but don’t forget to mention that his/her bedroom was upstairs and you put him/her in the crib at 7 PM and didn’t go get him/her until 6 AM! Or if you breastfed until your baby was 2, don’t forget to mention that you went through a rough start when your baby kept getting thrush and you thought you wouldn’t make it. The trials we endure sometimes encourage others to keep going or gives strength to the sleepless!
I don’t know, maybe things ARE perfect for some people. I’m not calling people liars here, I’m just asking mommies everywhere to yes, brag about your little one, but throw in some truths and struggles there, too. Because I guarantee that’s what other mommies will identify with, not that your kids started walking at the same age or when their first tooth came in!
Just be real!
Here, I’ll start. Captain Fussybuckets did not sleep through the night until he was 18 months old. He had to have a bottle at 3 AM every morning from 12-18 months, and sometimes at other times during the night. It was the only way he could go to sleep. (bad habit created by Mommy, maybe, but you gotta do what you gotta do when your son hates rocking and hates the pacifier!) BUT he’s always been an on-the-go kid who walked at an early age!
Baby D started sleeping through the night early on. I don’t even remember when it was because I refused to believe it was true. BUT he’s always been a horrible napper and takes the paci and sleeps on his tummy!
So there you go. I can be honest. I don’t want people to believe our family is perfect because well, that’s a lot to live up to and I refuse to try!