A lot of people have asked me questions like “don’t you want to go back to work?” “Don’t you get TIRED of staying in the house all day with your kids?” “Do you LIKE being a stay-at-home mom?” (SAHM) Well, I’m going to attempt to answer those questions.
Let’s start with “Don’t you get TIRED of staying in the house all day with your kids?” That’s the thing. I don’t HAVE to stay in the house all day with my kids. We go to Target, Walmart, and play in the backyard (which looks like a playground thanks to the grandparents! :o) We go visit Daddy at work and when it gets cooler, we’ll go for walks and go to the park. (I’m NOT braving the 100+ degree temps with two little ones!) But we also have the choice as to whether we stay inside or go outside. I don’t have to stand out in the wind/cold/heat at a scheduled time just to let my 22 kindergarteners get some playtime. If we want to go somewhere, we do. If we want to stay at home and play with Play Doh, we do. And no, the TV does NOT stay on all day. Some days we don’t even turn it on.
Next up….”Do you LIKE being a stay-at-home mom?” The answer? Yes. I do. Honestly, I don’t see how both parents go to work. We have a lot of nights of interrupted sleep around here. Last night baby D was up from basically 4-5, who knows why. The hubby did help out a LOT, but what if we both had to get up early? Who would have to get up with the kids? Sleep deprivation plus 2 kids that still nap sounds way better than sleep deprivation + 22 5 and 6 year-olds who most likely do not nap because the school doesn’t allow it.
Captain Fussybuckets has always been able to entertain himself. He loves when we play with him, and I spend a lot of time playing with his “horsey blocks,” Play Doh, and coloring with him, but he’s also able to play by himself, like right now while Baby D is napping, allowing me to type up this quick blog post. I think he takes after me. We both need a little “me” time throughout the day.
Now…”don’t you want to go back to work?” First things first, being a stay-at-home mom IS work. It’s a LOT of work. If you don’t believe that, come to my house for a couple of days and let me sit back and drink tea while you take care of the kids, housework (not spotless, just not dirty in most cases!), cooking, etc, etc, etc. And not just 9-5, it’s 24/7. Sometimes the hubs will be here to help you (and he is a very good helper, unlike a lot of dads!), but he cannot be here at all times.
But to answer the question…….no, I don’t want to go back to work right now. I am so thankful that God has led us here so I can stay at home and take care of the kids. I know a LOT of moms simply don’t have that option. I admire those women because working outside of the home must be SO hard. Sending your kids to a baby-sitter/daycare/school, getting up early and getting ready, having to smile and perform at your job when other stuff might be going on at home, having to take off work because your kid is sick, etc, etc, etc. You have hard jobs!!!
Anyway, maybe someday I’ll go back to work. But for right now, we’re all happy. I’m not losing my mind (yet,) the boys are happy, I don’t need a break, and I don’t miss teaching (yet) because I teach my own boys. I love many aspects of teaching and I wouldn’t trade that for the world, but right now, THIS is my calling. And I’m so lucky that I’m able to do it.
Kudos to all of you parents out there….stay-at-home, work-at-home, work out of the home…..you rock. Being a parent is a tough job, but it’s the best job ever!
disclaimer #1: I’m not mad or tired of people asking these questions, I’m just addressing them. I do not have a chip on my shoulder and I’m not bitter. My main point in writing this was actually just to express my feelings and maybe another stay-at-home mom or two could identify with what I’m saying. This was NOT written in anger! :o)
disclaimer #2: None of this applies when my kids are sick. They don’t sleep, eat, and are grumpy. Nothing makes them happy. When that happens, I want to lock myself in a soundproof room and sleep while someone else takes care of them. I am just being totally honest here, people. :o)
Last night Daddy and I had a “date night” while Grandma watched the boys. We went to the American Airlines Center in Dallas (home of the Mavs!!) to see Keith Urban in concert and we had a blast! We didn’t take any camera besides Daddy’s phone, so we didn’t get any good pictures, but the show was amazing!!!
Keith performed old songs that I love, along with new songs that I love. He didn’t sing “Your Everything,” which is one of his older, slow love songs that Daddy and I had played at our wedding. I get it though, you have to phase out the old stuff and you can’t have too many slow songs, but that was a bummer. BUT he has plenty of newer slow songs that are amazing, like “Without You” and “Making Memories of Us.” And, of course, there were many fast songs, such as Captain Fussybuckets’ favorite which he calls “The Guitar Song,” but is really called “Put You In A Song.” (here is CF “playing” the guitar song:)
Okay, back to the concert. Keith seems SO down to earth still, after all of his fame. He interacted with the fans and walked through a swarming crowd a few times to get to different places on the floor so he could interact with more than just the front row. Towards the end of the concert, he walked back to a little platform in the back, which was RIGHT below us. He played a song and then…he gave his guitar to a sweet little younger teenager. She was thrilled beyond belief. He clearly had hand selected her. I wonder if maybe she was singing all of the words to his song so he KNEW she was a true fan. I watched him reach down and grab her hands and put them on the guitar, so she and everyone else would know he meant to give it to her. ahhhh…it was so sweet. I’m sure that was the highlight of her year!
What else? I could go on and on and on…but here are a few other things about the night:
1. The fad for girls going to concerts in 105 degree weather (outside, the AAC does have AC…) is a baby doll dress and big cowboy boots. Literally over half of the crowd was wearing this outfit.
2. Older people love Keith, too. I promise I saw a couple of 80 year old women!
3. Keith genuinely thanked the crowd for coming out. He said that he knows a lot of people are going through very hard times and uncertainty, but whatever it took for them to come to the show, he was extremely grateful. I don’t know how many famous people would even think to say that.
4. Keith came out for his encore wearing a Mavs jersey and sang “We Are The Champions.” Oh yeah.
5. Concerts are louder than they used to be (yes, this statement makes me old,) even 5 years ago when we saw Keith last.
6. They added some video clips to the show since we saw him last and that is just awesome!!
7. There are a TON of people working behind the scenes. A.TON.
And can I just say that while I don’t know that it’s true because I don’t know the man personally, but I think his wife Nicole and two little girls have softened his heart. He’s always been sincere and sweet to me, but I dunno, it’s much different. It’s clear to me that something has changed since we saw him 5 years ago, and I think that’s it.
Way to go, Keith, you’re awesome.
|“meeting” Keith :o)|
(yes, I was a little embarassed…ha!)
|picture of the big screen|
(remember, phone picture! It was soooo awesome in real life!)
|Keith singing RIGHT below us!!!!!|
I was able to read and review the new book called “What Do You Use to Help Your Body? Maggie Explores the World of Disabilities” by Jewel Kats! This is a children’s book that follows a young girl named Maggie through a walk with her mother. They see different people, each with assistive devices to help them walk, talk, hear, and see.
I read this book to Captain Fussybuckets and he was very intrigued to learn about the different devices people use when they have a disability. I don’t think he pays much attention to these things yet, but there will come a day when he will have questions. It’s definitely a good idea to pre-teach this kind of stuff, in hopes that he will be respectful if he sees someone with a disability in real life. This is a good starting point to teach kids that all people are different and there are many different disabilities and devices that we have, but that we are all the same on the inside and we should treat everyone with respect.
The book is full of rich, colorful pictures illustrated by Richa Kinra. Richa is from India and has illustrated numerous children’s books, websites, and magazines. You can find her website here.
The author, Jewel Kats, is Indo-Canadian and has written books and articles for teens and kids. Check out here website here.
This book is available on Amazon.
Today was Daddy’s day off, so we went to the aquarium!!!! We had a blast!!! We found some clown fish, and Captain Fussybuckets has fun telling us who they all are….Granny, Mommy, etc, etc, etc
There were these awesome blue fish that matched his Dallas Mavs shirt!
Baby D’s favorite part was the aquarium that you could get “inside” of! Okay, that’s not true. His favorite part was crawling on the floor and seeing the sharks swim underneath him! But…the lighting wasn’t so good there, so we didn’t get any good pics….
Daddy and Captain Fussybuckets behind the curvy, skinny tank:
Then when we left, Daddy & the Captain got to ride a carousel! FUN!
Waving to Mommy & Baby D afterwards:
The meltdown that erupted when he found out he couldn’t ride the carousel again! :o(
What an (almost perfect,) great day!
Remember this post from June? No? Well, the birds have seemingly moved away from the trees outside of our window for their morning songfests. We do hear them occasionally, but that’s better than every.stinkin’.morning at 6 AM!
Are you ready to hear how we did it?
Meet Hootie and Owly:
These are the birds that protect our sleep from the other birds that like to sing in the morning! Owly and Hootie do NOT like singing birds and are standing tall to prevent them from singing in the morning. Way to go, guys!!!!!
A special thanks goes out to Grampy and Daddy Fussybuckets. Thanks, Grampy, for loaning us Hootie, and thanks to Daddy for a great idea!!!!
I had the awesome opportunity to review the Toy Bin Labels from Lovable Labels! These were JUST what our playroom needed to get and STAY organized. They are already helping Captain Fussybuckets remember where stuff goes when it’s time to clean up.
The set came with 64 premade labels and 16 blank labels!
Lovable Labels has an awesome assortment of labels! Clothing labels, bag tags, household labels, stationery, medical & vital ID wristbands, allergy & medical alert labels just to name a few! I also really, really love these super cute Toddler Toes that you place inside your child’s shoes. They help your little one to recognize left and right, and it has your address and phone number in a discreet place in case of emergency!
Lovable Labels was founded by a mom who had a NEED for these amazing labels, so she KNOWS what kids and parents want and need! All of the labels and products are durable! Their labels are waterproof, dishwasher and microwave safe, washer and dryer safe, sun safe, bleach safe, sunscreen safe and temperature safe! I think they have it covered!!
Visit www.LovableLabels.ca or call 1-866-327-LOVE today to place your order!
In what ways do you love to use labels?
*Disclosure: The products in this review were provided to me free of cost for the purpose of conducting this review. All opinions expressed in this review are my very own and are not influenced by monetary compensation!
Everyone knows about “The Mommy Wars.” You know, formula vs. breastfeeding, disposables vs. cloth diapers, to vaccinate or not to vaccinate, everyone has their opinions on how their baby should be raised and it’s only normal that everyone is different. I have my opinions and if you don’t agree with them, great. But that’s not what this post is about. It’s about the Stepford Moms who act like their life and kids are perfect, even when they’re not. It makes me livid when parents act like everything is hunky dory with their kids allllll of the time, always has been, always will be. You know….when you deliver your baby early, naturally, pushed for only five minutes on the precise day you wanted your child’s birthday to be, and then the baby sleeps through the night at 2 days, breastfeeding was successful from the start, never cries unless he/she is hungry, never gets sick, or when he/she does, never fusses, rolls over both ways by 1 week, stands unassisted at 6 months (ha!), never goes through the “terrible twos,” potty trains by 12 months…. blah blah blah blah BLAH!
I don’t know why people find it necessary to lie about their kids, when after awhile you KNOW it’s a lie.
This is more common in online mommy forums and women talking about their kids who were babies 50 years ago….but it still happens amongst friends, in smaller doses today.
You know how moms are, we naturally want to compare our kids to make sure they’re “on track” with their peers. I’m guilty of it, too. But kids are different. One kid who walks at 9 months may not have the vocabulary at 2 years that the kid who waited until 18 months to walk has. Or the child who has a speech disorder may be better at complex thinking than a child who talked at 10 months. (This is all being hypothetical, of course, not my scientific research.)
All I’m saying is, be REAL when you talk about your kids. Sure, your kid slept through the night early on, but don’t forget to mention that his/her bedroom was upstairs and you put him/her in the crib at 7 PM and didn’t go get him/her until 6 AM! Or if you breastfed until your baby was 2, don’t forget to mention that you went through a rough start when your baby kept getting thrush and you thought you wouldn’t make it. The trials we endure sometimes encourage others to keep going or gives strength to the sleepless!
I don’t know, maybe things ARE perfect for some people. I’m not calling people liars here, I’m just asking mommies everywhere to yes, brag about your little one, but throw in some truths and struggles there, too. Because I guarantee that’s what other mommies will identify with, not that your kids started walking at the same age or when their first tooth came in!
Just be real!
Here, I’ll start. Captain Fussybuckets did not sleep through the night until he was 18 months old. He had to have a bottle at 3 AM every morning from 12-18 months, and sometimes at other times during the night. It was the only way he could go to sleep. (bad habit created by Mommy, maybe, but you gotta do what you gotta do when your son hates rocking and hates the pacifier!) BUT he’s always been an on-the-go kid who walked at an early age!
Baby D started sleeping through the night early on. I don’t even remember when it was because I refused to believe it was true. BUT he’s always been a horrible napper and takes the paci and sleeps on his tummy!
So there you go. I can be honest. I don’t want people to believe our family is perfect because well, that’s a lot to live up to and I refuse to try!
We woke up to a wet ground this morning and soon after….rain. Real, wet rain! Captain Fussybuckets got his umbrella and went dancing in the rain. We’ve been waiting for soooo long for rain and he’s been down in the dumps with this strep for days now, so this was a chance to celebrate two things: RAIN and a little boy that seems to be getting better. He hasn’t complained of a sore throat since about 4 AM (knock on wood!)
Thank you, Lord, for the rain and for giving our little boy some comfort!
I should have never hoped for rain. Because it’s pouring at our house!!! Okay, not really, there is no rain, but it’s hard to maintain a positive attitude today.
You see, Baby D had a fever and ear infection Friday and Saturday and is recovering now. Monday, Daddy got sick, had a fever and was bedridden for over 24 hours. Then, Tuesday, Captain Fussybuckets developed a high fever. I took him to the doctor and it was determined that he has strep. So, that’s probably what Daddy had, as well.
Now, ear infections stink. But they’re no where in the league of strep. I had NO idea how awful strep is. A two year old with strep? Miserable doesn’t even come close to describing it. Tuesday night, he was waking up crying every hour. Finally at 3:45, I told Daddy to go to his bed and bring Fussybuckets into ours so one of us could get some sleep. Last night even coming close to his bed caused a fit, so I went to bed with him in our bed at 9:30. Thank goodness, because he was up every hour, or more often, again last night.
The worst part is that there is NO consoling a child with a sore throat. He doesn’t understand why he’s feeling the way he does, there is nothing in this world that can take his pain away except for time. Sure, Motrin, Tylenol, Chloraseptic all take away a little of the pain, and antibiotics work (hopefully) over time, but we, as parents, just feel completely helpless. He’s still completely miserable and has eaten very little over the past few days, and slept very little, too. Add that all up and it’s one cranky little dude. He did manage to eat two cheese slices today, and is drinking water, but other than that, he wants to eat, he’s hungry, but everything makes his “throat burn.” He’s frustrated, we’re frustrated, we’re all cranky and miserable. Daddy is feeling better, so he’s working, but it’s hard for him to do anything work related because he’s worried about his family.
To make matters worse, and yes, this is just me complaining at this point, but there’s a water leak in our neighborhood so the water has been out for 2 hours. How’s that for icing on the cake? Try completely knocking out the germs with no running water!
I keep reminding myself that things COULD be worse. I could still get sick and be completely incapable of taking care of my kids. I’m not out of the woods yet. So, if you’re the praying kind, please say a quick prayer that I don’t get sick.
Thanks for listening to me whine!
One more thing….we woke up this morning to this on our back porch:
Cute, right? Granted, it did make Captain Fussybuckets smile, which the smiles have been VERY few and far between these past few days. But, this momma got a little annoyed because a) I’m allergic to cats and b) that’s a sandbox they’re sitting next to. The lid is on, but of course I’m freaking out that they’re using the sand as a litter box! arggggh! Oh well. I’ll try to be nice to these kitties. But I am NOT feeding them!
We have this cute baby calendar that has saved my sanity. I knew I wouldn’t keep up with a baby book, so I never bought one. Calendars are the way to go! And this one that we have from Current is perfect! It has the perfect amount of stickers in the back to mark all of the milestones throughout the year.
My problem, however, (and I know that to label it a “problem” is sooo dramatic…) but my problem is that I never know when to “sticker” the milestone. Take Baby D. He’s getting up on all fours and moving forward. There’s a label for “begins to creep” but it’s more than creeping. He’s lunging himself forward to get whatever he wants, but not crawling around the house like a man on a mission (yet.) Do I wait until it’s a full on crawl or do I put the sticker on today because he IS “beginning” to crawl. ????